Embracing ‘Me’ Time

Feeling snowed in?

On a freezing cold day in March, I’m able to reflect on my love for ‘me’ time.

When life gets busy and we feel stressed it’s easy to forget to look after ourselves. There are times in all of our lives when we won’t love ourselves as much as we should but, I’m learning to cope with my negative thoughts and enjoy alone time.

It’s important to let happiness and positivity in. Although, when things get really tough and happiness seems far away, we need to at least acknowledge our feelings and take time to heal in whatever way works for you.

For me, in order to function and feel good about everyday, I choose to spend one day a week at home or at least in my own company. I never feel guilty because the day is important to me. I need to recharge my batteries and I enjoy my solitude. It gives me time to process all of my racing thoughts and be calm. It’s particularly essential for me to keep my home and mind organised. Sometimes this slips but there are certain things I like to do to get life in order again…

I’ll wake up when I want and won’t set an alarm. I’ll take a relaxing bubble bath, put on a face mask and pamper myself. I’ll change into fresh pajamas and I’ll eat a nice breakfast, take my time and listen to the radio. I’ll tidy up, chill out on the sofa and catch up with my favourite Netflix show. In the afternoon, I might go for a walk or go out for lunch. I’ll rustle up a nice dinner and maybe try something new. I’ll get an early night, scroll on my phone and read a good book. Catch up with my boyfriend and fall asleep at peace.

I love these days.

I’m not being selfish or lazy, I’m just an introvert. I love the productivity I have when I’m all alone, seeing what I’m able to achieve when I’m in my quiet space. This blog for example!

“Introverts are collectors of thoughts, and solitude is where the collection is curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and future.” – Laurie Helgoe, Revenge of the Introvert

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I like to set time aside and stick to it yet, some weeks I might not need my day and on others I might need more than one. Sometimes, I cancel on friends because I’m not done recharging. It just takes as long as it takes and that’s why sometimes I flake out on plans but, reading Chloe Plumstead’s blog post about being the flaky friend reminded me that it’s okay to not be available all of the time. Good friends and family should understand and if they don’t then I just shrug it off these days.

Basically, lazy days are great, having the house to yourself is great and being your own best friend is great too.

It’s important to love ourselves inside and out, to understand what we need to feel good and to never ever forget that!!

11 thoughts on “Embracing ‘Me’ Time

  1. I completely get this! I like that you have a general plan, even though they are not commitments. I should do that so I don’t get lost in the “struggle of choice”. I am on the edge of the Intra-/Extrovert border, but I need my day! Looking forward to reading more of your posts. 😀

    • That’s great to hear, I’m so glad you can relate. I’m a very social person but at heart I love quiet time. I used to feel so guilty about having time to myself and having somewhat of a lazy day but, now as I’ve got older I realise it’s healthy to want space to be alone. I don’t like to have a set plan but I like to have an expectation of what I’d like to achieve on my ‘me’ day, even if it’s just taking a bath or planning a meal x

      • I enjoy spending time with friends, but I need some “me time” afterwards to “decompress”, as I call it. I would agree that the trials of adulthood have forced me to slow down with the social outing, but also needing to “plan” an off day when I can. My problem is that I feel like I wasted the day. I am very production driven with chores and such. 🙂

      • I feel your pain. Sometimes I can get stir crazy and feel unproductive but on those days I’ll go out for a little walk or try to do some writing. I really dislike restlessness and feeling like I’ve not used my brain during a day, it can cause a lot of anxiety in itself. I’ve managed to overcome that for the most part though by setting myself a few small goals as mentioned x

      • I agree with you! I have not thought of myself as a writer until recently. So it will be something like 1)Complete Chores or 2)Watch 5 hours of the West Wing? Hopefully I can spend more time writing in the future. 😎

      • Those are still good goals! Sometimes my goals are really simple but they make me feel like I’ve still achieved something. I look forward to reading your work x

  2. Completely relate to this. Me time is so important, for mental health and well-being! It’s always a constant battle of needing time to myself and then feeling guilty for not achieving anything in a day but relaxing is very high up on my self care regime. I’m lucky and my friends are very supportive and understand when I flake on them ha!

    • I’m so glad you can relate. Even I have days (like today) where I’ve felt a little stir crazy but I know tomorrow I’ll be glad that I relaxed today. It’s so important to find a balance between having an active/social lifestyle and allowing for personal time.

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