Taking It Slow

Sitting on my sofa, having a relaxed Monday morning I contemplate my lifestyle; whilst it feels like the rest of the world heads off to work.

In March I remember writing a post called Hello Happiness  where I wrote openly about my decision to quit the 9-5, gave some advice for people wanting to do the same and, shared some personal opinions on my ‘career’ so far.

Whilst writing I remember feeling a bit fearful to share my feelings regarding office work and why it wasn’t for me, because I was still thinking maybe, I might go back one day. Sometimes, I still see myself falling back into an office job again, and wonder whether one day it might suit my lifestyle better if/when I have a family. But, after meeting up with a close friend and old work colleague my opinion might have shifted, at least for now.

She was trying to encourage me and in a positive way, suggest that I might want to return to my old job in a different department, as there is a current vacancy I could apply for. At the time, I was pretty interested and had spoken previously with my partner about wanting to go back if they’d have me. However, it wasn’t until a few days after that I began realizing that it would be a mistake and I would be taking a big step backwards.

Self care is the most important thing and my life is so calm, slow, peaceful now.

I work 3 or 4 days a week and have more than enough free time to live my life the way I want to. Before, I was consumed by work. I would constantly shop for work clothes, come home feeling stressed every day, wishing my life away and praying for the weekend.

Now, my life doesn’t exist within the confines of 9-5 and it’s the best. I don’t share the same weekends with everyone else because my routine is changing constantly. I feel that the job I’m doing is important and I’m not ashamed to say that I left working at a Law firm to become a Dementia Care Assistant anymore.

The job isn’t always glamorous but, there’s never a dull moment and I couldn’t think of a better use of my time. It’s in my nature to love and look after, so I’m staying put.

I might see my friends less because of the conflicting work hours but, I see my partner and family more, which means so much to me. I also have a lot of time to myself to write, cook, decorate my new home and enjoy my own company.

The most important thing to mention is that, my mental health has improved so much since saying goodbye to the unnecessary pressure I felt whilst working in a busy office. I’ve always had anxiety and still feel it sometimes but, it’s much more manageable now thanks to discovering a slower way to live.

I’m officially living my best life.

I’m the most confident and comfortable I’ve probably ever felt in my own skin.

I’m untroubled and am able to make the most of everyday.

I don’t go to sleep feeling worried and wanting to phone in sick anymore. I sleep so soooo well and, although I have no idea where my career is going long term, I’m enjoying life right now and that’s the most important thing.

 

 

 

 

12 thoughts on “Taking It Slow

  1. I wish you the best of luck! I called in sick this morning because my anxiety is horrible today. I work in a busy dermatologist office so I couldn’t bare the thought of phones, paperwork, new studies, and just people today.

    I’d love to be able to quit and be a freelance writer full time. That’s my dream and it’ll happen once I get money saved up for the “what if’s”.

    • I’m sorry to hear that you aren’t feeling 100% today.

      I remember coming home from work on numerous occasions and knowing I didn’t want to go back the next day. I might have had a little cold of a headache but, if I really really tried I could have gone in. Anxiety would completely take over though and I had to phone in sick. I’d spend the entire day feeling guilty and anxious about then going back to work too, which didn’t help the situation at all.

      One day I’d love to be self employed and take my blog to the next level but, at the moment I’ve only been writing for less than a year and only have a small following. With finances being tight in my house at the moment too, it’s just not an option yet unfortunately.

      Wishing you all the best! I’m sure one day your ambition of going freelance will pay off.

      Kate xx

  2. Thank you for sharing your experience. I went half time 11 months ago. Will be a year on September 21th. I love my job, but I felt like I was missing out on my kids life and I wanted to get back to writing. I was lucky enough to have a supporting husband and family. My husband who was a stay at home dad went back to work also half time. I think that was the best decision we could make. I run a blog, have a book coming out at Christmas and have more time and energy to do things I want to do with my kids. I wish you all the best in you life. Do what makes you happy.

    • Thank you. I’m so pleased to hear that you’ve found a work life balance that works for you and your family. I think sometimes we just need to take a leap of faith to seek the happiness we deserve. Congratulations on your upcoming book too!! X

  3. Great to see you’re keeping well and it looks like going part time was the best way forward. As you said, health and wellbeing is the main priority and it looks like you’ve got that covered! keep doing what makes you happy! x

  4. Well good for you is what I say! Making work for in with the life you want to lead, rather than your life revolving around a stressful 9-5!
    Fact your mental health has improved just shows you how right you were to listen to your gut & not go back to the job.
    Very happy for you reading that,
    Helen X

    Ps- this post made me want to follow you on WordPress, so I did from http://www.helensjourney.com ☺️👋

    • I’m so glad, thank you! It’s been so great to have more time for the things in life that I love. My new job is tiring but so much more fulfilling, which assured me that I’ve made the right decision for now at least x

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