An Open Letter

…About Why I Quit My Job.

I think I’m going to regret writing this but I’ve been told that it will be cathartic.

My twitter has blown up over the past couple of days and my blog has never been so popular I’m incredibly pleased to say. When I tweeted on Tuesday about whether I was brave or stupid for spontaneously quitting my job I had no idea I’d get quite the response. Some people were very proud of me and had been through similar situations; some where a little judgmental of my choice and a couple tried to imply I was privileged for having a choice in the first place.

At this point I will say this…

I’m 26. I live with my partner and have lots of bills to pay. I didn’t quit my job worry free and I don’t have family to run to if I need financial support. I quit my job because I was deeply unhappy for the 6 weeks I had been employed. I did however have the advantage of being under a 2 month probation period which meant I didn’t have to give notice. Also, my previous employer is willing to take me back and so I had a plan B.

I also understand that for others who have to look after loved ones or have children that making a decision to leave your job doesn’t feel like an option and, I certainly don’t encourage people to quit without thinking things through!

So, why did I leave my job?

Lets skip back to late 2018.

Working in Dementia Care and absolutely loving almost every minute of it I idiotically thought working in an office would be an improvement. I had previously worked 9-5 as a receptionist and had apparently forgotten just how much I hated it for the most part. So, during December I spontaneously applied for an office job for a company right around the corner from my flat. I didn’t think Id be successful but I was and I almost immediately accepted.

I assumed working office hours in line with my partner would be fantastic and I wasn’t wrong but, my mental health was going down.  I can’t say there was much at all about the job I enjoyed although everyone at the office was lovely and lots of the staff brought in their adorable dogs too. I could even come home on my hour lunch each day and the pay was pretty reasonable given my responsibilities. All good things on paper of course, which is why it pained me to leave.

Wanting to quit had been playing on my mind for at least a couple weeks before I actually reached my breaking point. In some respects I wish I didn’t have to go but, I knew the job wasn’t for me. The role was too corporate and training wasn’t really happening. Ultimately I decided that happiness comes first and when I spoke to my manager she had nothing but kind words to say.

Working 9-5 isn’t for everyone and that’s okay. I’m now returning to my old job with a greater understanding of the career I want moving forward and that’s exciting.

If you’re ever considering leaving your current career behind please take it seriously. Plan ahead and think of the repercussions. It might be a good idea to sit down and make a pros and cons list about your current job, what you think you want/deserve moving forward and begin updating your CV accordingly. Think about your previous experience and any courses you might want to partake in. Start applying for jobs in your free time and don’t be afraid to reach out to companies you might like to work for who aren’t currently advertising. Stay positive and stay motivated.

If deep down you love your job and the industry you work but feel unhappy for whatever reason, please don’t feel as though you need to leave. Quitting should be a last resort. So if you feel like your wellbeing is suffering because your role has become too stressful for instance, try to speak with your manager or a member of staff you feel close enough to confide in. See if working flexibly is a option, reducing your hours or even taking a little time away. You can also seek medical advice from your local GP who might be able to provide additional support moving forward.

 

10 thoughts on “An Open Letter

  1. I actually impressed with your decision, happiness in any kind of work is the fundamental point of everything. And I will consider following same pattern.

  2. This was me last May. I’d been in my new job 10 weeks (a 9-5) and I hated it abd started to hate my life out of work. When they said they were letting people go abs downsizing, being new I was first on the list. It was a complete blessing even if I did have to spend three months of summer without a job. I was lucky I had people around me to support me. Well done for ditching what didn’t work for you, it takes guts! X

  3. This is so brave. I’m really pleased for you.

    It’s great that you know what you don’t want, that’s just as important as knowing what yiu DO want so well done to you for making that decision!

    I quit a job about a year and a half ago and it was the best thing I did. Ever since, I’ve been much happier and less stressed.

    I hope your old job gives you the same happiness it did before. Great post! โค๏ธ

  4. I think you made the right decision. At the end of the day, where your mental health is concerned, you need to sometimes make difficult or scary choices for your happiness. Its great that your previous employer will accept you back too

    1. Thank you! I think a lot of employers still don’t make allowance for mental health issues and it’s such a shame. If I had been working there for longer I would have definitely reached out and made more of an effort to make a positive change but, my mental health on the day was telling me to run whilst I didn’t have to give notice. I definitely think I did the right thing.

      Kate x

  5. Well done on doing what was right for you! ๐Ÿ™‚ The last thing anyone needs is to be stuck spending all of their time in a job that makes them unhappy. It’s a difficult decision to make, but it seems like you did the right thing.

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